And now let's talk about the other (and FIRST!) major relationship in our lives

[Additional note: I just finished reading all the recommendations... only to realize that the author is a bit 'preachy' on God stuff. Take it for what it's worth. I didn't write it.]

I'm always posting about our kids. Let's not forget our spouses.... another repost from Design Mom on how to have a happy marriage. Nothing earth-shattering here, but a nice reminder for us all as we head home for a long weekend with our lover, friend, partner, and co-parent of our children.

What we say to our kids matters... and the science to prove it

I saw a link to this article on Design Mom (a blog I often read that is mostly about the American author's experience raising children in France, where they are living at the moment. She has 5 children. I think they are Mormon.)

The meat of the article is a few paragraphs in. Here's the highlight to pique your interest:

Her most famous study, conducted in twelve different New York City schools along with Claudia Mueller, involved giving more than 400 fifth graders a relatively easy test consisting of nonverbal puzzles. After the children finished the test, the researchers told the students their score, and provided them with a single line of praise. Half of the kids were praised for their intelligence. “You must be smart at this,” the researcher said. The other students were praised for their effort: “You must have worked really hard.”

The students were then allowed to choose between two different subsequent tests. The first choice was described as a more difficult set of puzzles, but the kids were told that they’d learn a lot from attempting it. The other option was an easy test, similar to the test they’d just taken.

When Dweck was designing the experiment, she expected the different forms of praise to have a rather modest effect. After all, it was just one sentence. But it soon became clear that the type of compliment given to the fifth graders dramatically affected their choice of tests. When kids were praised for their effort, nearly 90 percent chose the harder set of puzzles. However, when kids were praised for their intelligence, most of them went for the easier test. What explains this difference? According to Dweck, praising kids for intelligence encourages them to “look” smart, which means that they shouldn’t risk making a mistake.

New Elmo Documentary

I read about this new documentary film about the puppeteer behind Elmo on another blog, "Cup of Jo".

I thought our little gang might be interested.

Suggestions for activities for children aged 3 to 6

A former neighbor shared this through our listserve.The list below includes a number of activities that I had not yet considered for our 3-year-old.

Enjoy!


HOME SUGGESTIONS
The following suggestions are appropriate, purposeful activities that the child from 3
to 6 years enjoys. They help to construct the child’s personality. Prepare the materials
and present the activities in such a way that your child will know how to execute each
activity independently.

Care of person
• The child should be responsible for bathing, brushing teeth, dressing, and
combing hair.
• He/She can choose his or her own clothes (from an appropriate range of options).
• He/She should hang up his or her clothing (the home environment should be
prepared to accommodate these activities, e.g. a low hook on which to hang one’s
coat.

Care of Indoors
• Clean sinks, bathrooms,
• Dust and polish furniture, silver
• Mop floors,
• Fold laundry, roll socks,
• Keep room picked-up (make the bed, etc),
• Help with cooking and baking: peel vegetables, slice fruits, make salad, roll
dough,
• Water, prune and dust plants,
• Empty dishwasher or rinse dishes,
• Put away dishes,
• Pass food at the table,
• Set the table,
• Fold napkins,
• Clear table,
• Be involved in preparation of breakfast and own lunch,
• Prepare and serve snacks,
• Empty wastepaper baskets,
• Help put groceries away, fold paper bags.

Care of Outdoors
• Shovel snow with a small shovel
• Sweep porch and sidewalks, pick up paper around the yard,
• Rake leaves,
• Collect fallen fruit,
• Help wash car, polish hubcaps.


SOURCE: AUGUSTE MONTESSORI (202) 237-1788

Important MVA Information for our Maryland Drivers

From the NIH Parent's Listserve today... I thought it was worth posting.

Maryland's Motor Vehicle Administration (MVA) announced it has added an   
emergency contact option to Maryland driver's licenses. Maryland drivers 
can now add three emergency contacts to their driver's license so police 
will know who to call if an accident occurs. The emergency contact       
information is stored electronically on an individual's driver's license 
and will be available only to authorized law enforcement personnel.       
                                                                           
                                                                           
You can go to MVA's website at www.mva.maryland.gov and add your three   
emergency contacts in just a few minutes. Go to the website, click       
"On-line Transactions, then click "More" and then click "Emergency       
Contacts" to add your emergency contacts. The entire process takes less   
than 10 minutes.       

Or follow this direct link: https://securetransactions.mva.maryland.gov/emvastore/MustHave2.aspx?SingleUseWindowGuid=d8fd6243-c76b-44e5-88af-fc1a141283e2

                                                 
Please pass along to your family and friends as well...it's worth it!     
                                                                           
Another note: The MVA will no longer be sending out regular reminders that  your driver’s license will need to be renewed. It’s your responsibility to  keep track of when it’s due for renewal. And be careful, if you miss your  renewal date for over a year, you will have to take a driver’s test again.

Bethesda-Chevy Chase Rescue Squad Open House -- Oct 1

Looking for something to do the first weekend of October? The Bethesda-Chevy Chase Rescue Squad is holding an open house on October 1 from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Lots of emergency vehicles and activities for young and old. Also on that week is 'The Taste of Bethesda".

The Squad is located at 5020 Battery Lane, Bethesda, MD 20814-2642.

I haven't ever been to either event, but they sound like fun

Getting Ready for Fall (i.e. cold season)

The sniffles have begun in our house. The dreaded colds of fall. My husband and I have started taking zinc, since so far only our 3-year-old seems to be suffering. But we've also upped his allergy medicine, in case it's hay fever. And, we've started back in on the saline aerosol nose spray. He is remarkably good at suffering this particular trial of childhood. We let him make it 'rain' first, and then after some cajoling, and Mommy taking a turn at getting saline spray, he's game.

A little less coughing last night, so hopefully this renewed regimen will help.

What are you doing to help fend off colds now that the air has turned cooler?